side of single please!

Being single is possibly one of the most misunderstood states of a woman’s status. When all you have to do is go to the local bookstore to find shelves of books proclaiming the glory of single women, it makes you wonder—why all the need for pro-single propaganda? I mean there are no books saying “high-five, ya found him!” so why the need for the “don’t worry, you WILL find him” books? Is it because there is some deep rooted concern within our consciousness that fears we’ll never get what our coupled-friends have, and single peers want? I think that having someone offers a certain sense of security and closeness. It makes it easier to enjoy the ride—after all, joy shared is joy doubled. What I mean is, when all the people around you seem to be in a “couple” relationship, and you don’t want to date someone-- you just want your friend back, you start to misplace your need for your friend and channel it into a need for someone romantic. Secretly, your body is trying to stay in alignment with your friend, and makes you think that if you, too, can get a boyfriend, then you and her will be able to relate again and be in the same “level”. But is this REALLY what YOU want?
Anyone who’s been in a long-term relationship knows that its not always easy. Knows the sacrifices and consideration it takes, when you’re dependent upon by someone else. These feelings are easy to recognize, and are usually sensed after the infatuation wears off. What’s NOT easy to recognize is your need to need yourself, to be dependent upon no one but yourself, and feel okay with it. Being needed by no one...but your self. So although there may be times when it seems as thought having someone else to pair off with is the only way, maybe it is a more subtle call for you to be able to find completion within you. Cliché, maybe…but true? Certainly. Take care of yourself, love you. The more love you pour into your own cup, the easier it will be for others to follow.