When you think of humility, the image that probably comes to mind is likely that of Mother Teresa, or some other saintly religious figure. If you're lucky, one of your friends comes to mind. But for most of us, humility is another virtue that gets tossed into the, "ahhh, isn't that nice" category. Humility really is quite simple on paper, it doesnt take cunning wit or clever genius, but why is it so difficult in practice? Today, I met a rather hot girl (who stereotypically tend to be stick-up-their-ass bimbos), but upon conversing came to realize she was totally cool. Now, I have to wonder did her rockin bod and flat-iron perfect hair make her hot, or did her laid-back, girl-next-door attitude amp up her sex appeal? (No, I'm not a lesbo--but I've got nothing against it. No on prop 8). Well, to answer this question I have to replay my interaction with her and properly over-analyze our conversational small talk. It started out with (in typical female fashion) some good old eaves dropping. Upon her (polite) interruption during my "Sherlock Homes" investigation of new Acne products at the drug store, she inquired my thoughts of a particular skin care product. Looking at her flawless skin I couldn't help but roll my intellectual thoughts and label her a hypochodriatic nit-wit. I mean, here is this Giselle-esque broad with skin practically GLOWING, asking me what I thought about acutane. Huh? That's like an anorexic woman, asking her doctor for phen-phen. What the hell? Reluctantly, I told her about my love-to-hate cystic acne, to which she SHOCKINGLY admitted to having as well. Hold the phone, sister. No WAY do you have mega-bacteria lurking beneath the microscopic skin molecules, you call "pores". But she did. She could even spout off the the prescription meds she'd been on (this girl, new her stuff). Striking as it may seem, this walking Heidi Klum imposter wasn't as perfect as I'd assumed...and even more shockingly, wasn't afraid to admit to such. This got me thinking. Why are so many of us reluctant to extend our the branch of our human side? Why do we fear admitting our imperfections, if they have the potential to make us more likeable? Based on my experience, I saw first-hand how the admission of your own flaws can impact the way others perceive and subsequently respond to you. Maybe we've got it all wrong. Perhaps, showcasing only our best, shiny sides in order to have other people subconsciously compare themselves and shrink in cowering comparison, ISN'T the way to knock their socks off. Maybe, the real kicker is when when we can take a compliment and proceed to act and respond humbly--illuminating that we truly are human beings, flaws and all. Now, that's HOT!
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Humility is a quality that I believe some are born to "get" and others have to consciously work at every minute to maintain. Personally, I'd rather show the flaws, at the risk of being shunned but knowing I've been shunned at least makes the playing field equal. I would then know that the "shunner" is about and I can therefore choose to steer clear of a person like that. Perhaps a key component of being able to accept oneself, flaws and all, is to genuinely love who you are. Then, it doesn't matter (so much) the way others judge you. If someone is so preoccupied with the exterior that they don't even get to know the inner person, then to heck with them. Thats someone I can live without.
Yes, indeed. Easier said than done. I know someone who exudes humility and leaks happiness. She drives a minivan and can park it like its stolen. This woman gets it. Heck, I think she wrote the book...but is far to humble to ever autograph my copy ;)
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